Whine: My wife loves surprises, but her prowess at discovering them prematurely is uncanny.
Cheese: She auto saved her password to A Little Whine and Cheese so she will be reading this for the first time just like you.
About two weeks ago, we’re ruining the children’s dream house by picking up and cleaning. She says “Do you have anything for me for Christmas,” to which I try to show her my poker face as I sit on seven-deuce off-suit(the lowest possible hand in Texas-Hold-Em poker), and say “I’m not going to tell you that, why, is there something you want?” She says, “Well, I’ve been sending you ESP messages.” Translation: there is something I really want but I want it to be a surprise so I’m not going to tell you what it is. PANIC, PANIC, PANIC. I ask “Do I know what it is?”
At that moment my brain is throwing all the memory folders open looking for any clue as to what she could possibly be thinking about. Then I remember:
About six months ago I got an email from my wife with a link attached. She said, “if you ever want to get me something sometime here’s a good idea.” I think: WOW, I am the luckiest guy in the world, she told me what she wanted all I have to do is get online andFOOTBALL SEASON IS HERE COWBOYS, BAYLOR, TCU Etc. And I kinda forgot about it, although I did save the link.
So I go to the link (http://www.belkaidesigns.com/product/fear-to-freedom-necklace) and it’s a cool necklace that raises money for a good cause too. Now, its important that she not know I’m getting this, and she does all the bill paying, and banking so if I buy it wit a credit card she will know, so I call my brother and get his credit card info and order it to send to his house. YES!! She’ll never know, I thought…
A week later I’m sitting on the couch with her posting my beautiful hand made poker table on Craigslist. I ask her opinion about it and I hand her the computer and she fixes it. I had my email open and as she closes the craigslist tab gmail pops up briefly. She gasps and almost starts crying. I say “what?” She says “I saw something I shouldn’t have.” (Not that I’m tempted, but the chances of me keeping a Tiger Woods-double life are less than getting struck by lightning.) Of course she saw the email halfway down the page that confirmed my purchase. Dang It.
Whine: I don’t do a good job of telling her how important she is to me and my world.
Cheese: She keeps being important anyway.
One thing I love about her is her unquenchable desire to know others better. Its important because she is married to someone with “the emotional capacities of a teaspoon.” She draws me out. She makes me a little uncomfortable. I love that. Its not just me though.
If you have the privilege of knowing her, then you have probably experienced some of this yourself. She wants to know you. In a favorite book of mine the main character introduces a “particular friend,” which describes a relationship that is 1. special and worth mentioning, 2. exceptional, 3. personal. I am her “best friend” (sorry 5b) because it implies exclusivity. You are her particular friends because you are each of the 3 things above. Some more some less, but she always wants more. And thats part of why she is loved.
Thanks for reading. she probably wont let me post again, and it wouldn’t be a surprise anyway.